Author: Sophie Messager

  • The wisdom messenger podcast: An interview with Aimee Hamblyn, reclaiming your power and sovereignty

    The wisdom messenger podcast: An interview with Aimee Hamblyn, reclaiming your power and sovereignty

    In this show, I interview pioneers in women’s health and personal development about ground-breaking concepts that help women reclaim lost knowledge and inner wisdom.

    By bridging insights from ancient traditions and modern research, we’ll question stale cultural narratives and midwife a new paradigm around birth, life transitions, and women’s autonomy. Join me as we delve into stories and studies that empower women to reconnect with their inner voice.

    In this episode, I interview Aimee Hamblyn. Aimee is a doula, doula trainer and Energy-Lift Healer. Working with families since 2010, initially as a breastfeeding peer support and body work practitioner, focused on the post partum period. Always fascinated by observing how bringing the body into a state of deep peace, brings about healing on many levels. After experiencing the profound personal transformation in her own life, Aimee studied with Shakti Durga in 2012, to train as an Ignite Your Spirit practitioner to support her own clients.

    Aimee works with her clients using Shakti Durgas’s healing modality Ignite Your Spirit; this practice helps to heal past traumas, clear negative thought patterns, and clean & uplift the energy field.  This happens through connecting clients with their own inner light, wisdom and innate power to heal. Clients are uplifted and experience transformative life changing experiences. 

    As part of her dedication in the birth space, she also trains doulas with Developing Doulas. As well as running an annual mentoring container for birth professionals, “Sacred Birth”, supporting those working with families during the perinatal period to open to the energetic and soul dimensions of their work.

    Highlights include:

    1. Aimee discusses her spiritual journey and influences, including her upbringing, exposure to various religions, a pivotal trip to India, and her father’s passing.
    2. We explore different types of healing abilities, with Aimee sharing about her clairvoyant visual abilities that have evolved over time.
    3. We discuss the concept of Ignite Your Spirit therapy that involves meditation, visualization, and clearing/filling the energy body to tune into one’s intuitive languages.
    4. Aimee introduces the idea of reclaiming wounded parts of oneself and integrating them into the present as part of the healing process.
    5. We talk about a cord cutting practice to detach from emotional ties with others one is no longer willing to carry. Aimee incorporates this into her work with clients.

    Can you listen to the episode on Spotify, Youtube, or Apple Podcast

    You can find Aimee at

     

  • From impostor to trailblazer: learning to trust your inner pioneer

    From impostor to trailblazer: learning to trust your inner pioneer

    If you are worried about starting something new, read this.

    A few months ago, when I felt stuck after a long time not creating, my neurodivergent coach reminded me that sometimes we do not know what’s right until we try it. She asked me what would excite me. I said that I wanted to teach a course about drumming for birth. 

    I had fears around the fact that it was so niche that nobody would want it. I ran a free webinar. It had a 100 people signup, and was attended by 60 people so I thought, let’s try.

    I nearly cancelled the course because a week or two before I was due to start I only had 3 or 4 students. Then I decided to run it anyway, as a small early adopter group, knowing it would be special to do this, even if it didn’t make sense financially, and I also knew that, inside the container of creating this course, new things would be born. I thrive when I provide knowledge and support to others.

    In the end 10 women signed up, from 6 different countries, and the live sessions on zoom I held over the summer were beautiful and intimate. I loved them. My students had powerful transformative experiences. I get exciting messages from them telling me they’ve drummed at a birth in the hospital. They got tremendous personal growth by doing the course too.

    And now, 4 months on, I have 17 students from 9 different countries. I’ve published an article in a scientific journal about drumming and birth. I’ve started writing a book about drumming, birth, and women’s life transitions. I got the book project accepted by a publisher I’m really excited to work with. I started a podcast. I’m giving a talk about the science of drumming at the convention of women drummers next week, and I’ve been invited to 2 other conferences next year. I’m teaching an in person course in January. I’ve also had my request to write about it in a parenting magazine accepted.

    Don’t give up on trying something new just because you are the first person to do it.

    The pioneer’s energy

    Until recently I couldn’t see my gifts. I didn’t think that being able to do things that came easily to me was a big deal. The crisis I experienced over the last few years, working with various coaches and therapists, getting diagnosed with ADHD, and generally becoming a lot kinder to myself, has helped me understand and acknowledge my gifts. I can see what I’m really good at now.

    I should trust this pioneering energy, because it’s been there in my life.  It was there when I was 8 years old and I already knew I would become a scientist. It was there to hold my path steady when I was told, aged 16, that I shouldn’t pursue a career in science because I wasn’t good enough in maths.

    It was there when I was a biology student, and I refused to study molecular biology despite everyone else studying it. I wanted to study physiology. I was told it was old fashioned. I pursued it anyway and it made me a very desirable employee later on as molecular biologists where two a penny and very few people had the “old fashioned” knowledge I had. It was there during my PhD and 2 postdocs when I questioned everything I was told by my supervisor and did things my way.

    It was there when both my 2 postdocs and my first biotech start-up job led each of my bosses and collaborators to publish articles in a higher impact journal than they had even done before. When I shared ideas that more senior people hadn’t thought about. It was there when the biggest medical journal in the world, The New England Journal of Medicine, made an editorial decision to include animal data for the first time in the journal (that normally only published human data)  because the story we had was so compelling (a gene without which there was no puberty).

    It was there whenever I changed jobs or career as within a few years I became a name in my field. It was there when I left science to focus on supporting expectant and new parents. When I flew instructors from Germany I wanted to train as a babywearing consultant because there was no training in the UK.  It was there in my obsessive learning, in my desire to understand everything about so many subjects, reading, talking to people and attending countless study days. 

    It was there in my ability to metathink, in my looking at topics from a bird’s eye view and seeing links across far reaching topics (something I now understand to be one of the gifts of my ADHD).

    It was there when I started integrating osteopathic knowledge with rebozo techniques, when I created a new postnatal massage course with an osteopath, when I taught antenatal courses and used my drum to do practise contractions, when I created workshops and online courses about topics that didn’t exist before. It was there when I fought and succeeded to get insurance companies to insure babywearing, closing the bones and rebozo techniques. 

    It was there when I wrote my first book, Why Postnatal Recovery Matters.

    Stop wasting your energy with the laggards.

    A few years ago I attended a workshop about change making with Sophie Christophy. In the workshop she drew Roger’s adoption curve. It looked like the picture below.

    Roger’s adoption curve shows how a new product, technology or innovation spreads through a population over time. It looks at the rate of adoption and plots the cumulative number or percentage of adopters on a chart over time.

    The adoption curve shows how early adopters first start using the new innovation, followed by the majority, until a saturation point is reached where most potential adopters have adopted the innovation.

    Key phases of the adoption curve include:

    • Innovators – the first few risk-takers who adopt very early (the pioneers)
    • Early adopters – next group who embrace new innovations, influential in spreading the word (the people you need to reach with your new idea)
    • Early majority – big wave of adoption, pragmatists who require proof and recommendations
    • Late majority – only adopt after the average person, sceptical, need pressure from peers.
    • Laggards – last to adopt, very conservative, only accept once innovation is commonplace (the kind of people who would only stop using a rotary phone once it’s no longer available).

    You do not need to worry about the last 3 categories, because they will only adopt your idea after each of the previous categories has done so. You only need to focus on the early adopters. See how much easier it makes it? You only need to worry about reaching 13.5% of your potential audience. And how liberating it is to notice that you do not need to speak to the laggards.

    This workshop was a defining moment for me, because I finally understood that my inability to affect change within the local maternity care system wasn’t due to my not trying hard enough (I used to beat myself up about this), but rather to the fact that I was talking to the wrong group.

    I completely stopped wasting my energy in maternity care meetings after that, and focused on finding early adopters and champions where I wanted to make change happen. This is how I ended up training all the local NICU nurses in using slings to support parents.

    Now thankfully I recognise the signs. I look for the early adopters. I cast my net wide to connect with like minded people. I trust that the right people will find me.

    I no longer feel the need to justify my offerings. I share my stuff from a place of authenticity, warts and all, knowing that it will resonate with the right people, and that, if it puts people off, these aren’t the people I want to work with. I no longer waste energy in trying to explain things to people who approach me from a place of judgement instead of curiosity. I do a lot of blocking and deleting on social media.

    I find this really helpful when starting something new in taming my inner impostor. Its voice is quite small these days.

    It doesn’t mean that it isn’t scary and that I don’t worry that nobody will want what I’m offering and that I don’t doubt myself. But I recognise the pioneer’s process, and feel a deep sense of excitement, especially when I realise that nobody else has been where I’m going. I thrive on it. 

    Do you worry that you are doing something so new that nobody will want it? Does it feel scary or exciting or both? I’d love to hear your stories. Just comment below this blog, or message me.

     

  • The wisdom messenger podcast: an interview with Laura Leongomez about trance as our birthright

    The wisdom messenger podcast: an interview with Laura Leongomez about trance as our birthright

    In this show, I interview pioneers in women’s health and personal development about ground-breaking concepts that help women reclaim lost knowledge and inner wisdom.

    By bridging insights from ancient traditions and modern research, we’ll question stale cultural narratives and midwife a new paradigm around birth, life transitions, and women’s autonomy. Join me as we delve into stories and studies that empower women to reconnect with their inner voice.

    In this episode, I interview Laura Leongomez, a priestess-witch, mother, and doula. Laura is a workshop facilitator and trainer; a writer, artist, massage and song therapist from Colombia living and working in Pembrokeshire. We discuss Trance as our birthright, exploring altered states of consciousness during birth and other rites of passage.

    Highlights of this episode include:

    • What is Trance. Trance in daily life and as a bridge between our individual self and the universe or spirit world.
    • The fear of trance in the modern world, including the historical punishment for being “crazy,” “weird,” or “powerful,” which has led to a widely-held fear of these states in modern society.
    • The fear our society has of the potential power of uninterrupted birth and the trance that is meant to occur during birth, and how this often leads to unnecessary interference. 
    • Community-Led Trance Work and Holistic Healing, including singing, dancing and drumming
    • Laura’s experience of holistic practises in Colombia versus the UK, in particular her learning from indigenous midwives in Colombia

    Can you listen to the episode on Spotify, Youtube, or Apple Podcast

    You can find Laura on Instagram at

  • My Groundbreaking Research on Drumming During Birth

    My Groundbreaking Research on Drumming During Birth

    In this show, I interview pioneers in women’s health and personal development about ground-breaking concepts that help women reclaim lost knowledge and inner wisdom.

    By bridging insights from ancient traditions and modern research, we’ll question stale cultural narratives and midwife a new paradigm around birth, life transitions, and women’s autonomy. Join me as we delve into stories and studies that empower women to reconnect with their inner voice.

    In the third episode of the Wisdom Messenger Podcast, I am interviewed by Bridget Supple from the International Journal of Birth and Parent education about the article I published in the journal about drumming and birth. 

    Highlights of this episode include:

    • Complementary therapies for birth and the myth of evidenced based maternity care

    • What brought me to postpartum care and to drumming

    • The benefits of drumming during pregnancy and birth

    • How maternity care interrupts the birth trance

    • My most memorable experience using drumming during birth

    • How drumming can help in the current state of maternity care

     

    Here’s a summary of the article published in the International Journal of Birth and Parent Education:

    Drumming has historically been used by women in feminine-centered religions and rituals surrounding major life events like birth. However, these practices were suppressed and disconnected from women with the rise of patriarchal societies. Reintegrating drumming traditions into pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum can help restore a sense of the sacred and empowerment for women.

    Research shows that drumming induces measurable changes in brain waves, hormones, and physiology. Benefits include relaxation, pain relief, reduced anxiety/stress, and altered states of consciousness. For birth specifically, drumming can provide a sense of focus, community, intuition, and trust in the process.

    During pregnancy, drumming can reduce anxiety, promote calm and focus, foster community and intuition, and support late-term coping. For labour and birth, key benefits are relaxation, pain relief through endorphins and trance states, separation from normal consciousness, and empowerment during challenges. Postpartum drumming can support emotional, physical, spiritual wellbeing and healing through rituals.

    The type of drumming that is most helpful follows an intuitive rhythm rather than a set tempo. Drumming can be incorporated throughout pregnancy, birth, and postpartum or just in specific stages based on the mother’s needs. This can include sound baths, drum journeys for guidance, and focused drum healing.

    In conclusion, while understudied, cross-cultural accounts and women’s experiences highlight drumming’s value in bringing calm, empowerment, and intuition to pregnancy and birth. Reintegrating this ancestral practice can support restoring the sacredness and women’s inner wisdom and autonomy in the transition to motherhood.

    Download the article Drumming for birth: Why drumming is a powerful support tool for pregnancy and birth

    Or message me for a PDF copy of the article.

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    You can listen/watch to this episode of the podcast on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcast.

    You can find me on this website, and on Instagram

  • Beyond Postpartum Care: How Closing the Bones Benefits All Women

    Beyond Postpartum Care: How Closing the Bones Benefits All Women

    You may have heard of closing the bones for postpartum recovery, but did you know that it also supports healing through life transitions, physical and emotional health, and helps regulate the nervous system, including for people who are neurodivergent?

    Closing the bones is a traditional postpartum massage ritual. It is mostly known for its South American roots, but versions of it exist (or used to exist) on all continents (including in Europe).

    The ritual involves a massage/rocking of the body using scarves, a hands on skin massage, and a sequence of tightening scarves around the body. I use drumming in my rituals as well.

    Closing the bones supports healing:

    • Physically, by providing movement in the joints, muscles, tissues and fluids.
    • Emotionally, by providing space to simply rest and be and be held, as well as for emotions to be honoured, witnessed and released.
    • Spiritually, by providing closure, and bringing energy back to the person receiving it.

    I have written many posts on closing the bones for the postpartum and you can find them below:

    Beyond the postpartum, this ritual supports healing through women’s life transitions and rites of passage, as well as healing trauma and calming the nervous system.

    This includes:

    • Menarche, Motherhood, Menopause
    • Conception and fertility
    • New beginnings or endings
    • Loss: baby loss (miscarriage,  abortion stillbirth), and any form loss
    • Trauma (birth trauma, sexual trauma, shock…)
    • Regulating neurodivergent overwhelm  (ASD/ADHD)
    • Recovering from illness

    Menarche, Motherhood, Menopause

    • The 3 big transitions of a woman’s life, adolescence, matrescense and sagescence, are systematically dismissed, shamed, downplayed, feared, presented as only scary and/or inconvenient, and  in modern cultures instead of the powerful rite of passage that they are.
    • As Jane Hardwicke Collings says “Anything to do with women, or the feminine that is put down, ridiculed, feared, or made invisible, is a clue that it holds great power. Think menstrual blood, think childbirth, think menopause
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    • A closing the bones ritual (especially one held in ceremony with a group of other women) provides a way to empower, witness and honour these passages.

    Conception and fertility

    • Not only is this ritual a powerful healing experience for the postpartum but I have plenty of personal experience (and other practitioners too) of women overcoming fertility issues after this ritual. It can also be part of a conscious conception process.

    New beginnings or endings

    • A closing of the bones is beautifully suited to support and ritualistically mark new beginnings and endings, such as mariage, divorce, a new career or job (or the end of one). I now use it as part of birthday celebrations for friends, and because I have trained many people in my community in offering this ritual, people tend to ask for it or offer it when people are struggling or when it’s their birthday.

    Loss

    • I have supported many women through loss, from miscarriage to abortion and stillbirth, and I have written a blog post called How closing the bones can support babyloss. 
    • I have also used it to support people through the loss of a loved one, the loss of a community, a relationship etc. It is a perfect way to honour and support grieving and healing through difficult times in life

    Trauma

    • I have used this ritual many times to support birth and sexual trauma, including during pregnancy. 
    • I have also used it to support people through all sorts of other situations causing trauma and or shock, including recently for a friend after she had been in a car accident.
    • I was myself the recipient of such a ritual last year when I was in a very difficult family situation, and it was instrumental in my recovery. You can read about this in my post, ADHD and the kindness boomerang.

    Regulating neurodivergent overwhelm

    • Through the ten years I have trained people in giving this massage, many told me how helpful it was for their kids who were autistic, especially the wrapping. My own daughter loved it and it never occurred to me until she was diagnosed with autism to put two and two together. This year I was diagnosed with ADHD myself, and I have been on a big journey to understand what this means. One of the things I have discovered is that people who are neurodivergent are very easily dysregulated. Closing the bones not only soothes the nervous system deeply but it also helps teach the body what it feels like to be safe.

    Recovering from illness

    • In the past I have used this ritual to support people through severe illness, including chronic lyme disease, and more recently, terminal cancer. Every time I can see how the effects of the ritual are incredibly supportive in this context too.

     

  • The wisdom messenger podcast: An interview with Naomi Tolson

    The wisdom messenger podcast: An interview with Naomi Tolson

    In this show, I interview pioneers in women’s health and personal development about ground-breaking concepts that help women reclaim lost knowledge and inner wisdom.

    By bridging insights from ancient traditions and modern research, we’ll question stale cultural narratives and midwife a new paradigm around birth, life transitions, and women’s autonomy. Join me as we delve into stories and studies that empower women to reconnect with their inner voice.

    In the second episode of the Wisdom Messenger Podcast, I interview Naomi Tolson about microdosing can support the pregnancy, birth and postpartum journey.

    Naomi is a microdosing coach, psychedelic guide, advocate and community science researcher. She specialises in supporting parents who choose to microdose during their pregnancy and postpartum journey. Join us as we discuss how microdosing can support the pregnancy, birth and postpartum journey.

    Highlights include:

    • Naomi’s personal journey of discovering microdosing and the way pregnant and postpartum women in the eco spiritual community she visited used microdosing as a tool for spiritual growth and transformation during their pregnancy and postpartum journeys and why she could no longer work as a birth doula in the current maternity system
    • The benefits of microdosing, and how mushrooms may have contributed to the evolutionary leap in human history
    • Dispelling common myths about microdosing
    • How microdosing can support the birth journey
    • How microdosing can help heal birth trauma
    • Labour and altered states of consciousness, and how supporting people through psychedelic crisis is similar to supporting women in labour

    Listen to this new episode on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcast.

    You can find Naomi at

     

  • The wisdom messenger podcast: An interview with Jane Hardwicke Collings

    The wisdom messenger podcast: An interview with Jane Hardwicke Collings

    In this show, I interview pioneers in women’s health and personal development about ground-breaking concepts that help women reclaim lost knowledge and inner wisdom. 

    By bridging insights from ancient traditions and modern research, we’ll question stale cultural narratives and midwife a new paradigm around birth, life transitions, and women’s autonomy. Join me as we delve into stories and studies that empower women to reconnect with their inner voice. 

    In the first episode of the Wisdom Messenger Podcast, I interview Jane Hardwicke Collings about drumming to support pregnancy and birth. Jane is a grandmother, former homebirth midwife for 30 years, a teacher, writer and menstrual educator and the founder of the school of Shamanic WomanCraft. We discuss how drumming can support the birth journey. 

    Highlights include:

    • How Jane was introduced to drum journeying and how it gave her a new way to related to the world (you can listen to Jane’s recorded drum journey to the womb on Spotify or YouTube)
    • How drum journeying helps women connect with their unborn baby, and how they no longer need the drum to connect after a while, because they have learnt how to do it.
    • How this can also be used to ask babies were and how they need to be born
    • How making a drum helps women reexperience their own birth, the blueprint it provides and how the drum then becomes the medicine a woman needs
    • How connecting with your cervix during pregnancy can give you the instructions you need to help it open during birth
    • Jane’s own birth story and how drumming helped her move from pain and not coping during transition to experiencing an ecstatic birth
    • How we can use drumming to communicate with our future great great grandchildren to know what to do to change the world today.

    Can you listen to the episode on Spotify, Youtube, or Apple Podcast

    Read Jane’s article about drumming during pregnancy and birth.

    You can find Jane at

    Jane is coming to the UK to teach in person in April 2024.

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  • Why I created a podcast called The Wisdom Messenger

    Why I created a podcast called The Wisdom Messenger

    I just launched a new podcast. It took me a while to decide on the name because I wanted the name to reflect the eclectic range of topics that I intend to cover. I didn’t want to niche myself. I’m a multi-passionate person with a multilayered, forever evolving business (the official name is a polymath but I find that term too dry), and therefore the podcast needs to reflect this.

    I’m a sharer. I always have been. It’s in my name after all, Sophie is the French version of the Greek name Sophia means wisdom, and Messager means messenger in French. If you know me you know I can talk the hind leg off a donkey. I share because I want to help make the world a better place. I started blogging in 2015 and I’ve written about 200 posts, with an acceleration at a rate of a post every week or every other week since 2021. I published my first book, Why Postnatal Recovery Matters in 2020. The book has now been translated into 2 other languages, and soon will be available in a third. I’m writing my second book about how drumming can support the birth journey and life transitions. 

    For every person or family who reads my writing and feels heard, supported and helped by it, I feel I’m achieving my soul purpose.

    Over the last couple of years I’ve discovered that consuming knowledge via audio works better for me than reading, because I can listen whilst doing other tasks such as driving, or cooking. It has changed long boring drives into transformative moments. I’ve got a Bluetooth speaker in my kitchen and it has transformed prepping meals from something tedious into something I’m looking forward to. I’ve listened to countless books and podcasts episodes, and it’s a great way to feed my ADHD hyper focus when it drives me to explore new topics in extreme depth.

    So it makes sense that I chose to share my stuff via audio too. I didn’t do it sooner because I didn’t know how and I thought it would be really complicated. Mastering new tech is my nemesis, and I often procrastinate for ages when an element of this is involved. I am very grateful for authentic business coach George Kao, because last week I started his new course called Interview Mastery, and it gave me the impetus to start the podcast.

    Once I started, I realised (this has been true pretty much every time I’ve procrastinated over tech stuff) that the process was actually a lot easier and faster than I had expected. I like to compare processes to giving birth, with conception, gestation, birth and the postpartum (read my post about this here). I had a long conception and gestation, then the birth had some stop starts (mastering adding music to the beginning and end of the episodes took a lot of trials and errors, it felt like a stop start labour!), but in the end it was a fairly speedy, smooth and joyful birth. I’m now basking in the afterglow of high oxytocin and dopamine.

    My signature approach, what I feel I am really gifted at, beyond sharing stuff, is bridging the scientific and the spiritual. I feel humanity is at a crossroad and unless we re-learn to become connected to each other, our inner wisdom, and the planet, we are headed for extinction. 

    In this podcast I am going to share conversations with pioneers in women’s health and personal development to reclaim lost knowledge and restore inner wisdom. I want to help bridge insights from ancient traditions and modern research, question stale cultural narratives and midwife a new paradigm around birth, life transitions, and women’s autonomy. Expect stories and studies that empower women to reconnect with their inner voice and live their truths, to fully trust ourselves and shape our collective future.

    With this in mind, what better first guest could I have asked for than Jane Hardwicke Collings. Jane is a grandmother, former homebirth midwife for 30 years, a teacher, writer and menstrual educator and the founder of the school of Shamanic WomanCraft. Join us as we discuss how drumming can support the birth journey. Highlights of this episode include how making a drum can provide the medicine a woman needs during pregnancy birth and life; Jane’s own birth story and how drumming helped her experience an ecstatic birth; how drumming can help us communicate with our babies during pregnancy, and can effectively reduce pain during birth, and how it can help us connect with our great great grandchildren to know what do to now change the world to become a better place.

    My podcast is called The Wisdom Messenger, a literal translation of my name. You can find it on Spotify, Apple Podcast and YouTube. 

    I would love to hear what you think of the first episode, and also please get in touch if you fit the description of my ideal guest and would like me to interview you.

     

     

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  • Birth: changing the paradigm

    Birth: changing the paradigm

    When I attended my last birth as a doula, it was such a stark example of how broken, dehumanised, and beyond repair maternity care is in the UK. The woman I was supporting, having planned a homebirth, transferred to the hospital for an emergency caesarean. The surgical birth was needed, and this wasn’t an issue. What shocked me, despite 10 years of experience as a doula, was the total absence of humanity displayed towards her and her baby in the theatre. I wrote a poem about this called the maternity machine, which you can see me read here. 

    Leaving birth doula work behind, after being so deeply embedded in the birth world for 14 years, has given me several things: some much needed distance and reflection space, and the freedom to express myself more fully. I’m still a birthworker, an activist, a writer and educator in the birth world, but not being at the coal face anymore was something I needed to do because it was harming me. I explain why I left in this blog.

    Throughout my years as a doula I experienced a lot of vicarious trauma when witnessing obstetric violence that is so deeply embedded within the system, that people within it cannot even see they are doing it (for instance, a doctor attempting to do a vaginal exam without even introducing themselves, talking to the mother, let alone gaining consent for the procedure). This isn’t the worst. I’ve witnessed appalling things and sometimes I’ve been more traumatised by what I saw than the mother was, because she had no idea that what had happened was completely dehumanising and unacceptable.

    I’ve noticed since I left how much this has impacted me personally and created such a deep distrust of medical care. Navigating the needs my of 2 neurodivergent children within a broken health and education system has not exactly supported rebuilding trust. Attending A&E for myself with a kidney stone a few months ago only reinforced this:  a care assistant asked if he could take my blood pressure whilst I was bent over in agony and vomiting. When I refused, attempted to coerce me by saying that, if I let him do it, he might be able to ask for me to get more pain relief. I was too sick to use the appropriate expletives at the time but the parallel between this situation and what I had witnessed in maternity care was really striking.

    Putting space between myself and the system has given me much needed perspective, and time to think and reflect. Another reason I left doula work was because, as I approached the menopause (I still haven’t quite crossed that bridge yet despite being 53), I felt a deep sense of shift within myself. I felt the need to become an elder, holding the back of the battle line, rather than wielding the sword.

    Over the last few months I have become convinced that Western maternity care is damaged beyond redemption and that change will not come from within the system, nor from the thinking that created it. I have also become convinced that fighting against the system is no longer the solution. 

    The rates of interventions are going up at the rate of knots, yet keep going up some more, defying logic and evidence, and yet still going up, whilst the system remains underfunded. Some UK hospitals have 47% induction of labour rates for first time mothers. How on earth are hospitals, already crumbling under the pressure, going to accommodate over half of women having their labour induced. We are headed that way sooner than you think. Some UK hospitals already have reached that rate for first time mothers. It’s not about to improve, and I expect it’s going to get a lot worse before it gets better.

    What we need is a completely new paradigm, a new system, emerging from outside the system and outside the thinking that belongs to the system.

    As a doula and birth educator, I often came across women who told me that they were planning to attend a meeting with an obstetrician armed with peer reviewed papers to justify their birth choices. I always reminded them that this wasn’t going to work in their favour, because the obstetrician would most likely try to pick holes in their research, and that they didn’t need to justify their choices, but stand firm in them.

    The same applies here. As much as I believe educating people that their choices are valid and that the guidelines are rarely as clear cut as presented by maternity care professionals (or even based on any solid evidence at all), this type of left brain, rational thinking, which is so pervasive in Western culture, is unlikely to provide solutions to the maternity care crisis we are finding ourselves in.

    What we need is to support women to stand in their power. The power that resides within themselves, in their ability to trust themselves and know what’s right for them and their babies, rather than abdicating knowledge and power over to the system. What we need is to support a feminine way of accessing knowledge.

    I know it’s easier said than done, and yet there are tools available to help support this. Over the last few weeks I have been gathering information about using shamanic drumming as such a tool. What interviewing women and birthworkers has shown me is that the change in consciousness provided by drumming can act as a conduit to access inner knowledge and power.

    I have taught a course to a group of pioneering birth workers, written several blog posts, one article for the International journal of birth and parent education (out in October), and an episode in the Fear Free Childbirth podcast. I am writing a book about it.

    Does this resonate? What other tools do you think our world needs right now to rehumanise birth? I’d love to hear your ideas.

     

     

  • How listening to drumming can unlock your brain

    How listening to drumming can unlock your brain

    As an ex-scientist turned doula and healer, and as someone whose signature approach is to blend scientific and spiritual knowledge, I love above all else to help others embrace their woo. I also like give people a embodied experiences, because I believe that we learn best by experiencing things (especially things we might be skeptical about!).
    Using drum healing, and in particular, using drum journey (listening to drumming as a tool to unlock your brain, set intentions, and find answers) is such an experience.
    If you are a skeptic, I get you. I used to think drum healing was bullshit, and I explain my journey, which started with experiencing it for the first time in an unplanned manner, in this blog.
    You might be surprised to hear that repetitive, heartbeat-style drumming has been shown in published research to slow down brain waves, as well as to synchronise different parts of the brain and even to stimulate your immune system! For me it’s simply a faster way to enter a meditative state, and make my thoughts more fluid and creative. I find it particularly helpful to find the answer to a question I may have. A bit like having a massage can loosen your muscles or any tightness you may have, listening to repetitive drum beats can loosen your brain, making it easier to access knowledge.
    I’ve recorded a 20 min drum journey called “birthing something new”. I used a very powerful carved birth drum created by drum artist Juha Jarvinen to record this journey. I included a short guided introduction and conclusion.
    To best enjoy this process, set an intention (for example, an answer to a question you may have, or a solution to a problem), and then set aside 20 min (or even only 5 to 10 min-you do not have to do the entire journey to get the benefits) during which you will not be disturbed, and either sit or lie down comfortably. You may find that the sound works best using headphones. Relax and enjoy the journey. I’d love to hear what you think of it!

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